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I Have (Absolutely) Nothing To Wear

I Have (Absolutely) Nothing To Wear

“I have nothing to wear” (sigh!) Is this what you say when facing the closet each morning?

We’ve heard it countless times — we wear 20% of our clothes 80% of the time. It’s wardrobe fatigue (I totally made that up just now). But, yes, it does get boring.

And although it’s entirely possible to look well put together every day without repeating a single outfit in a year, I bet you have never used your clothing collection to its fullest potential.

Imagine approaching your closet, knowing what you’ll wear that day, convinced that it looks fantastic.

The Wardrobe Capsule

Susie Faux developed the concept of the “wardrobe capsule” in the ’70s.

The term referred to a collection of high-quality essential items of clothing that would stay in style to wear across multiple seasons.

According to Faux, a woman’s wardrobe capsule should typically contain at least two pairs of trousers, a dress or a skirt, a jacket, a coat, a knit cardigan, two pairs of shoes, and two bags.

The idea was to update the collection with seasonal pieces to provide something to wear for any occasion without buying many new clothing items.

The wardrobe capsule makes the closet more manageable and enjoyable using better quality, fewer clothing pieces.

In 1985, American designer Donna Karan made the capsule concept famous when she released her “7 Easy Pieces” collection.

The capsule idea has evolved these days – Instead of limiting the collection to 7-11 items, the current capsule limit is about 30 items, including shoes, handbags, and accessories. (It’s still an improvement from the two or three full closets many women own!)

The Stylebook App

A couple of years ago, I discovered an app called Stylebook. Stylebook is your closet in virtual format, at your fingertips.

It starts with cataloging pictures of your clothes, shoes, bags, and accessories so that you can combine these into infinite outfit possibilities.

The images that populate your virtual closet come from your closet, online stores, social media, and other sources. However, no matter the source, each clothing piece looks magazine-worthy. The app makes the image-gathering process effortless.

Once the wardrobe is uploaded into the app, you may record details about each piece for future reference (fabric composition, color, size, brand, how to launder it, and more).

Stylebook helps you prepare packing lists for trips, keeps statistics on the styles and colors most worn, and even has an outfit calendar planner, eliminating the chance of repeating outfits within the same social groups at the same gatherings. (Yes, I know!!)

Befriend Your Closet Again

The Stylebook app removes the boredom of wearing the same things over and over or the same way and eliminates the stress of getting dressed.

Including all your clothes, shoes, and accessories in the app takes some time — it is the most time-consuming part.

But once that part is complete, it’s easy to get addicted to playing with the many possibilities the closet holds.

Every person who invests time, effort, and money in organizing a closet deserves to get on board with this app.

The Stylebook app works for men and children alike.

Check it out! And if you need help getting this going for you, reach out to us. We’ll be thrilled to help you with this project.

How He Finally Found Flow at Home

How He Finally Found Flow at Home

Years Went By

During a recent trip to Puerto Rico (I’m from PR, if you didn’t know), I listened to a good friend talk about his place- a condo with a killer view and more than reasonable space for a bachelor. This friend also has excellent taste, so his place looks nicely put together.

During a recent trip to Puerto Rico (I’m from PR, if you didn’t know), I listened to a good friend talk about his place- a condo with a killer view and more than reasonable space for a bachelor. This friend also has excellent taste, so his place looks nicely put together.

But for the last decade, he had tried to sell his condo.

During that time, the property had been on and off the market. And although my friend had done everything within his power and seemed to do it all right, the sale never went through for various reasons.

All the while, he had felt emotionally detached from his own home, as he said.

Deciding To Flow

At some point during those years, his life significantly changed – It sped up exponentially. Consequently, he was spending much less time at home. The timing was ideal because now, he did not need to spend so much time in a place he did not love.

However, he thought maybe his path was not to sell his apartment after all and that he probably needed “to flow” with his home instead.

And by “flowing,” he meant he had decided to align his actions and feelings with the energy of his dwelling so it could be the source of joy he wished for – a home that would delight and support him. (I swear I had nothing to do with his decision or process – this was all him).

As he started to plan some upgrades on his apartment, it was clear he could only begin those after emptying several areas that have been storing a lot of stuff through the years. He had not seen, touched, or needed that for long.

As you can imagine, this was not a project he looked forward to doing.

The Unexpected Happened

But then something unexpected happened- as soon as all that stuff started coming out of the many “hiding” areas, he felt a rush of energy compelling him to declutter and reorganize everything in his home. He could not explain it, but that feeling was enough. He took action.

Unbeknownst to him, this was a first-hand experience of clutter causing stagnant energy and the contrasting feeling of unleashing the positive energy that comes with decluttering.

He witnessed how this fresh, vibrant energy carried him forward, infusing his environment with the attitudes and feelings he longed to experience in his place.

Comfort Coffee at home

Becoming Mindful

It might be easy to ignore the draining effects of stagnant energy, settling for the status quo. However, becoming mindful gets us in touch with ourselves, our feelings, their why, and how. Then, it’s easier to discern what should be done and the path forward.

So yes, my dear friend has a beautiful, well-appointed condo that he loves and is no longer trying to sell. He made peace with his home, which is now a place that supports his hectic life and gives him joy.

His Story Is My Wish For You

Listening to his story made me realize his journey perfectly embodied everything I wish everyone to experience.

  • Becoming mindful
  • Making the right decisions
  • Taking action
  • Eliminating clutter and chaos from their lives
  • Shifting their energy
  • Loving where they live

(My friend should become My Space Reclaimed poster child, right?)

It’s simple- once you decide to love your place and act mindfully, your house becomes that HOME that supports your life and speaks of rest, comfort, and joy.

When that happens, life becomes easier, bigger, and better. That’s when you experience the flow.

Do Those Chores. Follow That Routine. Excel.

Do Those Chores. Follow That Routine. Excel.

When we feel overwhelmed or sad, we tend to let go of things around us that are not urgent or important.

But the last thing you should do when faced with adversity or you “don’t feel like it” is to throw the structure and plans out the window.

Instead, do those chores, follow that routine, and excel.

Keeping your routines in place and focusing on what you need to do, despite how you feel about it, is vital to avoiding future trouble.

Let’s say you are feeling sad, and as a result, you recoil and decide to stop chores. You’ll likely soon have to deal with the same heartache plus all the things you left undone.

Your proverbial strike won’t make your pain go away. Ignoring your chores won’t make them disappear, either.

Things pile up, especially those we consider unimportant. And many “unimportant” things together have the power to take us down and overwhelm us even more. But overwhelming feelings won’t help you get over any heartache anyway.

On the other hand, if you keep doing what you must (despite your feelings and the circumstances), you come out on the other end with an enormous sense of achievement, feeling in control of your environment. That feeling will feed your spirit to continue moving forward.

Although some circumstances in life take us down, body, mind, and soul, I’m not referring to those instances but emotions that overwhelm or shut us down.

For example, the emotions behind your clutter are paralyzing in many instances. However, what’s needed to overpower clutter is, ironically, that action you don’t seem equipped to take. In this case, the solution is letting your mind, not your heart, guide you. Go on “automatic pilot” if you must.

Ultimately, you’ll have accomplished what needed to be done. You’ll smile and proudly whisper, “I’ve got this.”

Okay. See you on the other side.

The Hidden Magic of HGTV Design Shows

The Hidden Magic of HGTV Design Shows

When “The House Stops Working”

We all love those HGTV design shows. Whether it is “Love It or List It,” “The Property Brothers,” “Unsellable Houses,” or a rerun of “Fixer Upper,” we absorb their contents with joyful passion. But what is the hidden magic of HGTV design shows?

I recently enjoyed a “Love It or List It” marathon. Episode after episode confirmed that homeowners invariably mention that “the space no longer works” for them when they want to move or engage in a significant home remodel.

Clutter Is The Common Denominator

After establishing this fact, we then see the interior of these houses, and most of the time, we see a cluttered space that gives the impression that the home truly does not work for the family anymore. Typically, the common denominator in these homes is the clutter.

But why does the space “stop working” for a family? What does that even mean? Maybe homeowners have stopped trying to conform to their homes and instead have gone out of control, holding on to much more than they need.

They may have stopped objectively looking at their possessions altogether. Things accumulate without anyone noticing, and one day, they realize there is stuff everywhere, and they can no longer put things away even if they try. Or they can only use specific home spaces if their stuff occupies all their living space.

Please do not take me wrong. I love these shows the same as everyone else. In particular, “Love It or List It” is terrific. The dynamics between David and Hillary are fantastic, and this is one of the few shows where you see the Designer fighting for a budget to deliver her proposed plan.

I have never understood the budget distribution on these shows’ renovation projects, by the way. How can $100,000 completely renovate a home, including a whole new roof (and I don’t mean shingle replacement, but removing the entire existing roof where you can see the sky and replacing the whole thing – as I saw on “Mountain Mamas”?)

That Hidden Magic

But back to my main idea. I find it very interesting that these shows could not present their “reveal” without the staging.

Staging plays a fundamental role in the final product. The initial clutter is gone because homeowners moved out of the property during the renovation. But at the time of the reveal, we see that every area has new furniture, accessories, plants, and flowers- everything is perfectly appointed, which goes flawlessly with the new concept. Well, of course, it needs to be like this. Nothing less will do.

But the point is that we see none of the homeowners’ belongings in the space. We see hung clothes in closets, for example. It is a carefully curated selection of clothing pieces that barely occupies the space. And just like the clothes and shoes in closets, we do not see toiletries in the bathroom, the contents of the living room cabinets or kitchen dishes, or an overabundance of forgotten appliances.

What would the space look like with all the homeowners’ stuff and their original furniture? Not quite as impressive, for sure. What is the missing link here? The part they need to discuss is the staging involved.

So, the true hidden hero in those HGTV homes we love is the staging. Although the staging details are not discussed in the show to avoid diverting the focus on design, that big reveal is only possible with staging.

These HGTV shows do not discuss that if homeowners want to continue enjoying their fabulous new space when staging props leave the scene, they better reconsider the amount of stuff they keep and how they store everything in their house. That is what the organization is about.

No Organization, No Magic

Staging does not seem to be compatible with everyday day-to-day living, though. So, unless we look past the design and pay attention to the home organization and available space, the shine of the big reveal will fade as soon as clutter returns.

Staging is the true hero on these shows. But the organization ultimately makes the magic remain once reality sets in and homeowners’ stuff makes its way back into the house. Clutter the area again, and nobody will care about or even notice the outstanding design that once took their breath away.

For the homeowners to move back in and have this fantastic layout “work for them,” they need to flex those long-neglected organization muscles. Otherwise, the place will soon stop “working for them” again.

No matter what changes a space undergoes, if we don’t consider the area available and adequately manage our belongings, no HGTV design wonder will help in the long run.

There are very valid reasons to want to move or renovate a home. But when it is just a matter of the “space no longer working for us,” maybe giving the organization an honest chance saves us the costs and complexities of home renovations or moving.

Properly addressing the organization of the home makes it possible to live in a house worth a design show reveal any day of the week.

As an organization expert, I wish to show homeowners how they can live in bliss with their home environment. They can have a home and a space they love for its functionality and beauty.

That home you never knew you had? I can’t wait to show you!

The Shame That Binds You

The Shame That Binds You

The Shame That Binds You

Many people, especially women, feel ashamed about being unable to keep up with a tidy home or an organized life. Is that the shame that binds you?

But why does this happen? Where does such a thing come from?

Well, it starts with some harmful beliefs society has perpetuated. These beliefs are particularly detrimental to women.

Harmful Beliefs

Society has perpetuated three beliefs that are particularly harmful to women:

  1. It is a woman’s job to organize the home, her life, and the lives of everyone in the household while even working outside the house.
  2. This female job comes from the fact that a woman’s capacity to organize, plan, and manage comes inherently to the female gender.
  3. A woman should be capable of doing all that naturally, effortlessly, and excellently.

However, planning, organizing, and managing require engaging the brain’s executive function. Whether it is due to an accident, illness, a brain condition, or genetics, the ability to plan, organize, and manage takes work and requires learning for a large part of the population. The truth is that most people do not excel at those activities, even less enjoy them.

An Outsourcing Economy

And that should not be a problem. Our societal arrangement provides for outsourcing services and products we cannot make ourselves due to the lack of skills and time. 

We defer the making of products and provision of services we need to groups or individuals who are experts at what they do because engaging our time in or learning all the skills required to produce our products and services is not cost-efficient.

And there is no shame in that.

For example, we go to a salon to get a great haircut. Of course, we could cut our hair, but that does not mean we should, would want to, or be successful at it (I know, I’ve been there! LOL).

Or we go to a store or tailor to get clothes instead of sewing our own. Although many people excel at sewing, that is not most of us. 

And even those good at sewing would only make some of their clothes. Making their whole wardrobe from scratch is not an efficient use of their time. So they even outsource their clothes acquisition.

Why The Shame?

So, why the shame around organizing, managing, and planning?

Is the CEO of a Fortune 500 company embarrassed to engage a business coach or a team efficiency expert? No! It is even expected from a person in such a position.

The shame of being unable to keep a tidy home and an organized life comes from thinking we are inherently capable of achieving this. And if we can’t accomplish that, something must be wrong with us. Furthermore, if those skills are innate, they are expendable at some level.

A Compounded Problem

We are dealing with a double fallacy that compounds that shame.

Believing a person is inherently capable of planning, organizing, and managing negates the possibility of needing to learn these skills, as is the case for so many.

Consequently, someone without those skills might feel ashamed and even less open to acquiring the skills by learning.

How about focusing on what we excel at and what makes us joyful? It is easier to feel happier, accomplished, and fulfilled in life this way instead of pounding ourselves with guilt every step.

Here’s The Solution

And for things that involve knowledge we don’t have, skills we were not born with, and time we don’t want to spend (like organizing, planning, and managing, for example), the Professional Organizer comes to the rescue!

A Professional Organizer is skilled and, in many cases, instructed in organizing, planning, and managing physical spaces, time, people, systems, and ideas.

A Professional Organizer Can Help

Professional Organizers can help by:

  1. Doing the organizing and planning, you do not have time to do
  2. Doing the organizing and planning you do not want to do
  3. Developing systems that make your life and home more efficient
  4. Using their knowledge, experience, and skills to build systems to make your life and home more efficient
  5. Teaching you the fundamentals of their work, should you be interested in learning to maintain your systems

A Professional Organizer sets household members up for daily success and long-term goal achievement, plus a home that operates like a well-oiled machine. Who would not like to have that?

A Matter of Perspective

Look at it from the perspective of that Fortune 500 Executive that engages a coach to crush their short- and long-term goals while learning to work smarter, not harder. After all, you ARE the CEO of your home.

So, stop the guilt if that is what’s holding you back. Instead, give a Professional Organizer a chance to show you how easy life can be! You might be surprised. Your only regret might be not making that decision sooner.