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Adapting New Spaces To Feel At Home

Adapting New Spaces To Feel At Home

You know when you move into a new home and feel like everything perfectly fits (“like a glove”)? Yeah… that usually never happens. New spaces need to be adapted to you and your family so you may feel truly at home.

Start With A Blank Slate to Adapt Your New Space

Almost every new space you encounter will require certain changes to make it work best for you. And to plan these changes in a new space the best thing to do is to completely clear the space. It’s important to have a blank slate.

Instead of assessing how your stuff fits in the new space, remove everything from that room, including any additions previously installed (like shelves and furniture). Then, plan the space by looking at it empty.

Ask For Help

You might want to call a Designer, an Organizer, use an app (many apps with free levels allow you to design 3D spaces with all kinds of architectural singularities), or engage the services of stores like The Container Store, California Closets, Closet Envy to have one of their space designers come and help you with the project. This is a service most stores offer for free. And it is critical to have it right.

In this process, consider the kind of things you intend to keep in that space. Note that we say the kind of things, not the amount.

The design should drive the project when dealing with a new space, not your stuff. Your belongings should conform to the area, not the other way around. Although a functional design uses the available space more efficiently, the physical space available is set, while the contents is more easily adapted.

Time To Let Go

When the time comes to incorporate your belongings into that area, there are serious decisions to make about what to keep and what to let go.  Because even though a good design will always seek to maximize the use of the available area, no design will ever work, and no space will ever look good with more than it can and should hold.

Many people experience this situation when moving. Usually, furniture, storage solutions, and belongings work and fit well in the previous home. But transferring those into a new structure rarely works the same. This leads to odd feelings of not belonging in that new house.

Do You Really Feel At Home?

When finally set in a new house, you want to feel “at home,” and you would like this to happen as soon as possible. But for this to happen, the spaces require some adaptation.

Interestingly, this adaptation process often gets ignored due to a lack of time or skill. The feeling of not belonging persists over years of living in a house where you don’t feel “at home.” But with the sacrifices we often need to make in moving, don’t you think you deserve to feel you belong in your new place?

Here’s the good news! As Organizers, we specialize in space planning. We are highly skilled at adapting, organizing, transforming, and designing your new house in every way so you feel at home as soon as possible. We want you to start your new life in your new space, loving how you feel.

If you are moving or don’t feel “at home”, call your Organizer today! The difference we can make will surprise and delight you – you’ll wonder why you never thought of us before.

The Greatest Pitfall in Home Management

The Greatest Pitfall in Home Management

No Time for Housekeeping

Here’s my take on the most significant pitfall in home management.

That laundry basket seems to travel around the house and never gets emptied. Do you know that basket? Families don’t have time to finish the laundry. Cleaning up the kitchen is a problem for most people. Laundry, paper, and kitchen are the nemeses of so many! I repeatedly hear an argument: “There is not enough time to keep the house in order.” The problem here is a lack of systems and time management skills.

Have You Ever Had a Managerial Role?

I have identified a common pitfall among household managers — not acting as managers at home. Most people do not apply in their homes the skill set that makes them successful at work. But why not?

If you work outside the house, you have managed to keep your job, staying on top of things. Regardless of the type of work you do, there are out-of-the-ordinary projects and day-to-day ones. Those routine tasks comprise the backbone of your job. Whether you supervise those tasks or execute them, the responsibility is yours. If you stopped ensuring those processes are thoroughly performed, things would go south rapidly.

Why can’t we all plan and execute like actual managers at home? One might think it is because home is where we rest and want to think of things other than chores and duties. 

Here’s the Irony

But the irony here is that the more you feel that way, the more chaotic your home environment will be and the less you can rest and relax.

You are looking for the million things you can’t find in the home, buying duplicates, wasting time, effort, and money, forgetting essential family commitments, or not having a dining room table available to gather around.

Each time we neglect our home duties, we add a new layer of chaos to our most intimate environment and the corresponding energetic shift that such chaos brings. Are you sure your home is where you want to rest and forget about the stress of your job?

What Get Scheduled, Gets Done

Running the home like a well-oiled machine requires planning what needs to happen. Remember that what gets scheduled gets done. 

You would not leave it to chance or rely on “when you have time” to make client appointments at work or to write that report for the boss, right? So, why not schedule house chores and involve every household member? This way, everyone contributes to the home and learns to execute all these domestic chores. This knowledge is essential. Your kids don’t want to go to college to realize they don’t know how to boil an egg.

Then Schedule It!

Much of our household stress would decrease if we transferred some of the management skills we proudly displayed at work to the home and started planning and scheduling the many menial household tasks. 

Planning allows us to control when and how these things happen, while scheduling means that those chores will stop interfering with our lives — they will be part of it.

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The Shame That Binds You

The Shame That Binds You

The Shame That Binds You

Many people, especially women, feel ashamed about being unable to keep up with a tidy home or an organized life. Is that the shame that binds you?

But why does this happen? Where does such a thing come from?

Well, it starts with some harmful beliefs society has perpetuated. These beliefs are particularly detrimental to women.

Harmful Beliefs

Society has perpetuated three beliefs that are particularly harmful to women:

  1. It is a woman’s job to organize the home, her life, and the lives of everyone in the household while even working outside the house.
  2. This female job comes from the fact that a woman’s capacity to organize, plan, and manage comes inherently to the female gender.
  3. A woman should be capable of doing all that naturally, effortlessly, and excellently.

However, planning, organizing, and managing require engaging the brain’s executive function. Whether it is due to an accident, illness, a brain condition, or genetics, the ability to plan, organize, and manage takes work and requires learning for a large part of the population. The truth is that most people do not excel at those activities, even less enjoy them.

An Outsourcing Economy

And that should not be a problem. Our societal arrangement provides for outsourcing services and products we cannot make ourselves due to the lack of skills and time. 

We defer the making of products and provision of services we need to groups or individuals who are experts at what they do because engaging our time in or learning all the skills required to produce our products and services is not cost-efficient.

And there is no shame in that.

For example, we go to a salon to get a great haircut. Of course, we could cut our hair, but that does not mean we should, would want to, or be successful at it (I know, I’ve been there! LOL).

Or we go to a store or tailor to get clothes instead of sewing our own. Although many people excel at sewing, that is not most of us. 

And even those good at sewing would only make some of their clothes. Making their whole wardrobe from scratch is not an efficient use of their time. So they even outsource their clothes acquisition.

Why The Shame?

So, why the shame around organizing, managing, and planning?

Is the CEO of a Fortune 500 company embarrassed to engage a business coach or a team efficiency expert? No! It is even expected from a person in such a position.

The shame of being unable to keep a tidy home and an organized life comes from thinking we are inherently capable of achieving this. And if we can’t accomplish that, something must be wrong with us. Furthermore, if those skills are innate, they are expendable at some level.

A Compounded Problem

We are dealing with a double fallacy that compounds that shame.

Believing a person is inherently capable of planning, organizing, and managing negates the possibility of needing to learn these skills, as is the case for so many.

Consequently, someone without those skills might feel ashamed and even less open to acquiring the skills by learning.

How about focusing on what we excel at and what makes us joyful? It is easier to feel happier, accomplished, and fulfilled in life this way instead of pounding ourselves with guilt every step.

Here’s The Solution

And for things that involve knowledge we don’t have, skills we were not born with, and time we don’t want to spend (like organizing, planning, and managing, for example), the Professional Organizer comes to the rescue!

A Professional Organizer is skilled and, in many cases, instructed in organizing, planning, and managing physical spaces, time, people, systems, and ideas.

A Professional Organizer Can Help

Professional Organizers can help by:

  1. Doing the organizing and planning, you do not have time to do
  2. Doing the organizing and planning you do not want to do
  3. Developing systems that make your life and home more efficient
  4. Using their knowledge, experience, and skills to build systems to make your life and home more efficient
  5. Teaching you the fundamentals of their work, should you be interested in learning to maintain your systems

A Professional Organizer sets household members up for daily success and long-term goal achievement, plus a home that operates like a well-oiled machine. Who would not like to have that?

A Matter of Perspective

Look at it from the perspective of that Fortune 500 Executive that engages a coach to crush their short- and long-term goals while learning to work smarter, not harder. After all, you ARE the CEO of your home.

So, stop the guilt if that is what’s holding you back. Instead, give a Professional Organizer a chance to show you how easy life can be! You might be surprised. Your only regret might be not making that decision sooner.

Make Space to Create The Life You Want

Make Space to Create The Life You Want

Creating The Life You Want

It is possible to create the life you want for yourself. And you might not even imagine how much this has to do with being organized, but let me connect the dots. Keep reading.

We, Organizers, preach how much easier life becomes when we get rid of clutter and get organized. We discuss how organization saves money and gives us more time to relax and enjoy what matters. But those benefits are only achievable if you do your part. They require attention, intention, and slowing down.

Your commitment to learning and practicing new habits and systems until they become second nature to you and all others sharing your home space is fundamental to freeing your brain and soul to find the point of creation within you.

Slow Down to Find That Point

How about you possibly slowing down with everything to do every day? So many things need your attention and intervention. There are so many things you must solve.

Rene Descartes once said: I think, therefore I am. And he was entirely correct. We are co-creators in this universe. Thus, we must be able to create the life we want.

Whether we call it God, the Universe, Vortex, Life Force, or Spirit, there is a place in the human mind where the power to create our reality resides.

We can decide what we want our lives to look, feel, and be like. We can manifest it!

In this high-paced world, most people don’t ever stop to reflect on their high-level ideas. However, people who meditate, for example, can decrease their pace and raise the vibration of their creative energy. That’s when and where the magic happens- they access their point of creation and create the life they want.

But how do we slow down or free up headspace? Breathe. Listen.

That learning curve in the organizing process requires that you stop and understand some essential things:

    • There are habits to eliminate, while there are new ones to adopt
    • You need to understand the systems implemented as your physical space is organized – understand how these systems work to maximize your productivity and efficiency.
    • From this point on, it is essential to become intentional in everything you do

Like a Well-Oiled Machine

As a Certified Professional Organizer, I am responsible for educating my clients in organizing methodologies and principles, uncovering the root cause of their clutter, designing solutions for them, and showing them strategies and tactics to move forward confidently.

My clients seek results and effectively solve those issues that cause them to live small, disorganized, over-complicated lives.

However, their understanding of the organizing process and their long-term commitment to it are crucial to the long-term success of any organizing project. Without their understanding and commitment to the process, the best systems and most detailed organization efforts will fail.

When your home space is transformed, your old habits and routines won’t support the new way of living anymore. You can’t expect results compatible with your new home environment, acting as you did before.

Also, the brain depends on action repetition for the body to develop that “muscle memory” to adopt a more intuitive way to do things. This is how routines become second nature – when newly created habits flow effortlessly. That’s when you have achieved a home that runs like a well-oiled machine.

Systems to Engage Autopilot

A system is a series of sequential actions to execute any given activity. Simple examples of household systems are how and when someone does the laundry, how they plan meals (or not), and even how they shower.

When we declutter, we remove excess from our home. But when we organize, we sort through things, classify, allocate, and then custom-develop systems for the household and individuals within.

However, the multiple benefits of an organized life depend on that person’s ability to systematize and automate their day-to-day tasks and effectively incorporate those systems and routines into their everyday life.

When daily tasks run “on auto-pilot,” that’s when a person finds the time and headspace to rise to the level of creation in their life.

When New Habits Become Second Nature

When new habits and routines become second nature to you and yours, then you can:

    • Be proactive instead of reactive.
    • Dedicate time to what matters most to you.
    • Spend more time with those you love.
    • Work towards the achievement of your goals.
    • Create your life and circumstances (in every sense of the word).

Voila! Those are the benefits of an organized home and life.

Higher Thoughts Turn Into Goals

Imagine three levels of existence within you. All those menial, mundane tasks should happen at the base (lower level). The mid-level is where you execute most of the time and where your attention should be 85% of the time. That mid-level is where you make things happen, no matter if it is stuff from the basic level or the upper one. Finally, the upper level is for high-level, life-changing thoughts and goals.

When you have lower-level tasks on autopilot, they don’t need much of your attention. On the other hand, upper-level ideas need sufficient attention from you to bring them down to the mid-level. Bringing those thoughts to the mid-level is crucial because it is in the mid-level where you give them shape through concrete planning and execution. This is where goals come from!

Removing Attention From Menial Tasks

The benefits of being organized and having an efficiently managed home do not negate the need to attend to the menial daily chores. However, when we plan, schedule, and streamline everything that should happen in everyday life, we automate all those lower-level tasks.

This requires paying attention to planning and executing the menial stuff before automating these things. But once we do this, we can operate in a more stable environment, thus making it possible to focus on bigger, more important things.

In other words, daily living tasks get streamlined and automated in our schedule so that they don’t require our constant attention. When this happens (and these tasks become second nature), we hardly notice them. As a result, we stop feeling these to-dos bug us. And thanks to greater efficiency, we have more time and headspace for the big picture and higher-level thoughts, which is where the point of creation resides.

Move Forward To Create The Life You Want

And this is how you move forward to create the life you desire. The more streamlined and automated the lower-level tasks and ideas are, the greater the space in your mind to shape, plan, and execute more significant thoughts – our goals and dreams – the point of creation.

Not having the space or capacity to attend to the planning and execution of those ideas means living in the rat race where everything has the same priority and where we continually run around putting off fires.

That is an exhausting, reactive life. This unintentional life does not provide space or energy to think about what we want in life, much less to make it happen.